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The six styles of love - Find the most closely match of the style of love you have can increase the odds
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The six styles of love
Psychology professor Susan and Clyde
Hendrick created the “Love attitudes
Scale”: a survey which helps people
identify their love style. They claim that
understanding which style of love you
most closely match can increase the
odds of you finding your own Mr. or Mrs.
Right.
(1) The passionate Eros
The Eros-type lover is the passionate
lover often written about in romance
novels. People with a high degree of the
Eros style have an intense focus on their
partner that can last for years and years.
Eros lovers have a very definite image of
what they want for a partner and, once
they find this person, they go all out to
win his or her love. If you find yourself
only attracted to a specific kind of person,
then you might have some aspects of
Eros in you.
(2) The player Ludus
Ludus are the type of lovers your mother
warned you about. They look at love as a
game and often cannot limit
themselves to just one partner at a time.
The Ludus does not have any specific
perferences and flirts with almost
everyone . Ludus lovers have a problem
with commitment and often end
relationships when things are going “too
well”. Though Ludus-style lovers are
often looked down on, the Hendricks
point out that most just want to have a
good time and rarely intend to hurt
anyone.
(3) The stable and safe Storge
(pronounced stor-gae)
To the Storge-type lover, friendship,
commitment, and security is more
important than heated romance and
physical attraction. For Storges, love is a
safe, comfortable relationship with a
person who shares similar goals and
outlooks on life. Their relationships
usually begin as friends and slowly
develop into deeper feeling of love.
Physical intimacy and wild passion are
often lacking in Storge relationships, yet
their relationships are the most likely to
endure.
(4) The practical Pragma
Prama-style lovers are very practical
when it comes to love and relationships.
Pragmas have a clear image of what kind
of life they want and look for a partner
who will help them attain it. Pragmas
have a “shopping list” approach to
relationships and “shop” for mates with
specific qualities such as type of
occupation, family background, and
personality. It may seem cold and
calculating, but Pragmas consider this
approach simply realistic. They are
similar to Storges in lovers in that they
put less emphasis on passion and
