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Parenting from the inside out notes 2
University: Alliant International University
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Parenting from the inside out notes 2
Parenting From The Inside Out (2013): Chapter 5, 7, 8, 9
CH 5 - How We Attach: Relationships Between Children and Parents
Epigenetic factors – Genes passed on by parents that impact characteristics
Attachment style is not static, and can change
Secure attachments
Attachment – inborn system of the brain, drive to
oSeek proximity
oHave a source of safe haven in attachment figures
oView attachment figure as a secure base to return to
ABC’s of attachment
oAttunement – aligning your own internal state with those of your children,
sharing of non-verbal signals
oBalance – children attain balance of their body- emotions, and states of mind
through attunement with you
oCoherence –the sense of integration that is acquired by your children through
your relationship with them in which they are able to come to feel both
internally and interpersonally integrated and connected
Contingent communication – your actions match up with your words, and you are
attuned and coherent
Insecure attachments
Come from non-attuned, non-contingent communication
Avoidantly attached – avoids closeness and emotional connection to the parent
oParents often show little to no emotion
Ambivalently attached – child cannot depend on parent for attunement and
connection
oParents show inconsistent and intrusive communication
oInsecurity in the relationship develops
Disorganized attachment
Needs are unmet and parent’s bx is repeatedly disorienting (e.g., parent dissociates
when the child cry bc of the parent’s previous trauma/abuse) or instills terror in the
child (parent abuses the child)
Abuse damages parts of the brain necessary for neural integration
Children have difficulty regulating emotions, communicating in social situations,
academic reasoning, tendency toward violence, and predisposition to dissociation
Fright without solution – parents instill fright, but they cannot resolve it or be a source
of comfort/safe base/safe haven (no solution)
Science
Experience-expectant development – gene info determines the growth of the neural
connection, which in turn need to be maintained by exposure to minimal amounts of
“expectable” stimulation from the environment